Months go by and to John everything is dandy, John is as happy as a ripe peach on a peach tree, just peachy. Then John notices that Mandy is not as attentive as she used to be. He asks her if anything is wrong and she tells him she is not happy and feels they need to split up.

John is heart broken, he is gutted, how could she, how could she break his heart like this, she was going to be
The mother of his children
His life long partner
She was going to marry him
She was going to love him forever.
It is all her fault she has hurt me, broken me, and destroyed my heart she is the bad one.

John has fallen into the expectation trap.
He expected Mandy to fulfil his needs with out telling her exactly what those needs were, or even giving her the choice of being responsible for his needs.
John was needy; John had dumped all that energetic expectation on to Mandy’s shoulders and expected her to carry it for the rest of her life at the same time as carrying her own needs. Mandy was not strong enough to carry both sets of needs, she became despondent and resentful, she felt as if she was being taken advantage of.

Mandy did not break Johns heart, John expectations were broken he did not get what he expected out of the relationship and he is blaming Mandy for it. John broke his own heart. He was not willing to take responsibility for his own actions and now feels Mandy is to blame for it.  

 In our world of expectations, we are constantly projecting our needs on to other people. We project them most of the time with out even knowing that we are doing this and often with out even knowing what our own needs and expectations are.
When the people we project them on do not meet these expectations, we end up blaming other people for letting us down.

We need to take responsibility for everything that happens to us in our world. We need to be responsible for all of our needs and be aware of what we expect from other people, because if we expect we will get let down eventually.
Wayne lee
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I find myself watching how other people are playing out their endeavours to be enlightened and I have learned much for myself through this. 

On this path to enlightenment, we are pushing ourselves to a higher and higher vibration and it becomes easy for us to judge the people we see around us as being below us because we are pursuing a higher vibration. We believe that we are on the ultimate path and that we should help other people along their path. We start to assist our families, our friends our work colleagues as well as any one who will listen with their personal path.

 I believe that this need to help others on their path is in itself is extremely un-enlightened. What I believe we should be doing as searchers of enlightenment is to accept every person no matter if they are on a path or not, no matter what age, sex, religion, and belief structure they may have chosen. We need to accept the killers and lover, the helpers and abusers, people we think are lazy or workaholics, people who give and people who take. We need to accept them.

 If we are seeking universal spiritual enlightenment then we should realise that the universe has a purpose for all its types of people.  With out this vast variety I think life would be far less worthwhile. So accept everyone is also accepting the universe.

 Through accepting them, we are in turn accepting ourselves.

 Accepting yourself, I believe, is an ultimate step in the search of spiritual enlightenment, so before you judge or help other people, accept them as just perfect and allow those who want to learn from you to choose you.

 From being the teacher, I have learned that I am only and will only ever be the student.

Wayne lee
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 I have come to some conclusions, as we grow up we get taught even before we are 14 years old how we should behave around and in connection with money. As with many different aspects in our lives we have taken on our parents beliefs and fears. When It comes to money this is no different. I thought it best to list the beliefs that we may have been programmed with.

 Children are not responsible enough to look after money.
We could end up believing we are not good enough to be financially wealthy.

 Children don’t understand the importance of money
We could end up letting money define our status I life.

 Children waste money.
We could end up spending our money unwisely.

 Children should just get enough money.
We could end up only ever earning just enough to survive.

 Children do not understand how hard it was to earn money.
We could end up believe that earning money has to be is hard.

 Children are a financial burden.
We could end up believing we do not deserve money.

 Children should work hard for their money.
We could end up believe that we have to work hard to earn money.

 I can go on, as there are many more of these kinds of beliefs, the problem with these beliefs is that most of them are with in us but we don’t even know they are there. They are invisible beliefs that were instilled in us before we could choose for ourselves.

 The good news is that we do not have to keep these beliefs; they are mini energetic traumas that can be shifted if done so in the correct manner.

 You could be struggling financially and not understand why, maybe you should seek out help to change those beliefs so if you have them you can CHOOSE to make a change.

Wayne Lee
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 The universe in all its wisdom has given us the ability to choose for ourselves and thus we should be happy with what ever we have because we have chosen it. If we therefore seek happiness then we are giving the universe the message that we are unhappy and it endeavours to create for us the situation that we have chosen and we have chosen to be unhappy, so the universe gets busy creating our belief that we are unhappy and thus giving us struggle.

 I have begun the inner quest of seeking emptiness. Emptiness is the acceptance of all the parts of who I am letting go of the vibration struggle that absorbs so much space with in me, I spend time reflecting on myself with out being harsh on myself because I have chosen the situation I am in. I seek to understand the beliefs in myself that hold me back and in doing so release the energetic blocks with in me, creating a space in myself for emptiness, I try spend time just with myself allowing emptiness to full me up. I release all my expectations as they are limiting my self-awareness. As I move forward toward emptiness the universe sees I am empty and at peace, I am accepting myself so it creates for me fulfilment.

So in short, the pursuit of happiness creates struggle and the pursuit of emptiness creates fulfilment. 

Wayne Lee
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The universe smiles at my Quandary.

 I have noticed while working with clients that I will usually find several energetic traumas stuck in one or all of the chakras or meridians that is causing the client emotional, spiritual or physical pain or turmoil. With each trauma, I usually find words or emotions that are stuck there. They could have been energetically there from yesterday or from in the womb and can be playing havoc on the clients day-to-day life.

 I have found that some clients tell me about a trauma that they experienced and not worked on and expect the trauma to still be affecting them. However, when I look for it energetically, I am unable to locate it. I wondered why some situations that we think are traumas do not stay with in the body. What I have discovered through conferring with my guides is that trauma has an opposite. The opposite of trauma is a lesson

 A trauma is something that has happens to us that we cannot understand or that has not been explained to us in a sufficient manner as to create understanding from it.

 A lesson is when a situation happens and although it is traumatic we are able to let go of the extreme energetics because we understand the situation or create a viable and feasible conclusion to the situation. For example:  

 Trauma
“As young boy runs toward a busy road, his mother grabs him forcefully by the arm and snatches him back from the road, he is flustered by the aggression of the incident. She grabs his hand very firmly and leads him down the pavement. The little boy is crying because he does not know what he has done wrong.”

Lesson
“As young boy runs toward a busy road, his mother grabs him forcefully by the arm and snatches him back from the road, he is flustered by the aggression of the incident. She grabs his hand pulls him towards her and says very firmly “ you must listen to me and stay away from the road you could have been hurt, busy roads are dangerous” she then leads the crying child down the pavement knowing he has learned to be more careful of busy roads.”

We must remember that a person’s death is usually something that we do not understand. Even if we know some one is going to die it can still be traumatic because we are unsure of what has happened to the person. We have no understanding of exactly what is on the other side. Our energetic bodies are still in contact with the soul but or physical bodies can never again connect with that person physical energy.    

Each and every trauma we have experienced can be worked through, we can create an understanding, we forget that our childhood traumas happened when we were children and we are no longer children so we are able to cope with them.

Do not be afraid to connect with your traumas you might find them easier to deal with than you thought and create a place of well being with in yourself rather then dis-ease.

Love and light

Wayne lee
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A client who had previously had a fantastic result from a session with me at a charity event approached me. He was coming to see me at the recent fund raising for the ‘Tibetan children’s trust’ and wanted to know if I could do a distant healing on his friend who could not make it to the event.

I have total faith in distant healing but I prefer to be physically connected to the client, to be able to touch the energy and feel it as it shift and releases in the client, as most of you have experienced with me already. I was open to trying, as I know with out trying you can never learn anything new.

He arrived early the Saturday morning, had a session for himself, and then presented me with a picture of his friend who had requested the session.

I sat down at my healing bed; I took the picture and looked at it. I placed myself in the healing space I am so very used to and allowed my senses to open to the picture. What happened next amazed me!!

It was if the client was actually with me in the room. I could see the energy as it flowed around the picture. I took some coloured pencils and started to make connections between the blockages and energies on the back of the picture, adding symbols as I kept referring back to the picture. I worked on the picture offering the picture and the distant client the healing as if she was here on the bed. As I worked, I could see the shifts in the energy in the picture. The session took 15 minutes of constant working on the picture. I then spent the next 5 minutes just sending energy to reinforce the changes I had offered the clients energy.

I found the missing piece to the puzzle for me in distant healing. I can see the energy in the same manner as if the client was actually with me. I have opened this up even further now and have learned as long as I can see the client in a picture or through video or Skype then I can work on the client, seeing the same things as if they were with me in the room. It just goes to show how insignificant our buildings and walls are as energy can by pass the physical.

Due to this I have decided to offer distant healing to clients who are willing to create change, you can read more about it here.

I have also updated my code of conduct if you are interested in reading this you can find it here.

 Many of my clients struggle with over active minds, so my guides assist me with this understanding.

 Imagine how scary it must have been living in the wild for the cave men thousands of years ago. Just going down to the river for water could have got you killed by snakes, lion and other hungry animals out there. Therefore, instead of developing more muscle and more mass we started to think, to use our mind.

 ‘Yesterday one of the clan got attacked and killed again they had gone for water just after the sun had come up. Fear runs through the clan, someone needs to come up with a solution.

Over months and years of clan members dying whilst fetching water, one of the clan members came up with a solution. Her mind realises that she could not recall anyone being attacked when the sun is high in the sky, so she surmises that collecting water is the safest when the sun is high and at its hottest perhaps the animals rest and keep out of the sun. So from then on, they always go get water at midday it is not risk free but it proves to be far less likely any one gets hurt.

Her mind came into action; it knew from experience that members of the clan were attacked. Her ‘anger’ of losing loved members was high. She used this past knowledge and anger to motivate his thoughts. Her ‘anxiety’, ‘worry’ and ‘fear’ of losing others in the future motivated her mind into thinking of a way to keep the clan safe.’

Humans developed there mind instead of muscle or mass.

In today’s world, we do not have the same kind of environment. We do not need to try and fight just to stay alive, yes our world is still a jungle but it’s a different kind of jungle. It is possible to live with out fear and worry of losing your life.

The mind, I believe, evolved to find a way to keep us safe. ‘It is our friend when we are in a pickle’. The problem that we now have is the things that make us unsafe in our world no longer simply eat or kill us, they are our childhood ‘traumas’ and ‘hurts’ from the that seem to just keep on battering at us, if they are untended too. Now our minds keep making up different scenarios that might keep us safe from our feelings. From our anger of the past and our fear and worry of what the future may hold. The difficulty comes in when we may not remember or have buried these hurts and traumas so deep that our mind cannot find a way to help us so it begins to over work, constantly seeking an answer to make us feel safe.

I believe that it is possible to connect with these hurts and clear them and that in itself will give us a little more help, slowing the mind down, and helping us be more human and grounded and less wild minded and flighty.  

Love and light

Wayne
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I spend overall about 9 hours of seeing clients for 20 minutes sessions and am always amazed at how quickly I get fully booked. Working non-stop with so many clients forces me into being 100% in the moment with each client. It is mind blowing to see the incredible difference in each person’s energy yet they all still seek the same ultimate goal of loving themselves and being loved.

The lesson I learned this weekend was one that will stay with me present in my mind always. Four of my clients came to me all over the age of 50, all having lived hard lives with various difficult lessons to learn. In my way of working, I could see that they all had one similarity in their energy, the blockages that I am so readily eager to remove, I found un-movable. These blocks where already absorbed and accepted into these peoples energy field, permanent signs of the harder lessons life had taught them. My first feeling was that of sadness and I felt helpless, as I could not help free them from the energies that life had inflicted on them. I immediately looked inside myself looking for the positive that could come from this and what I could do to help.

What is it that I can do to help some one who has accepted themselves and accepted the lessons and life and who has moved on with their lives. I came to the wonderful realisation that these people had re-birthed themselves, they had found away to be at one with what life had brought for them and started again to seek for happiness no matter the risk. I saw this as a powerful enhancement to their energy and in no way a hindrance. All I could do was be with them, accept them as they had accepted themselves and rejoice in their strength and wisdom.

I learned that just being with some one energetically is, I believe, one of the most powerful healing techniques. It creates an energetic connection that teaches both people that who they are is just perfect.

I can only thank my clients for helping my learn so much and understand the wonder that this life truly is.

Love and light

Wayne
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I want to share something with you that I do not have my head around completely yet, this is Emotional timing.

 What I am discovering is that all emotions are either in the past or in the future but never in the moment. In the moment, we experience feelings. An emotion for me is something we think and a feeling is something we experience.      

Emotions are in our head, and feelings are in our bodies (soul body, physical body, mental body, bliss body earth body etc).Emotions can make you feel and feelings can make you emotional, but they never seem to be together.

 “If you think about a child who falls over there first reaction is never to cry in the moment the child is experiencing a feeling then the child’s brain relates falling with crying and sadness and then the child begins to cry. In the moment the child’s brain had no emotion just feeling in this case a feeling of lack of joy.”

Total joy would equate to us feeling blissfully happy after the moment and total lack of joy would have us feeling devastating sadness after the moment. I have concluded that in the moment we feel total joy/love or total lack of joy/love and levels in between. Before or after the rare total connected moments in our lives we have our emotions. We feel worry about things that have not happened and we “stinky think” about these things we have not experienced yet, creating fear and uncertainty. We get angry over what has happened and frustrated and sad as we cannot change the things that have past. However, in the past or in the future there is no joy/love at any level so if we live in the past or in the future we are starving ourselves of joy/love and over feeding our thinking mind.

 To be totally full of joy and love means we would need to exist as much as possible in the moment. I know this is easier sad than done but I believe that if we strive for a few minutes a day and work at building it up over time we can learn to be truly connected to ourselves. Our emotions feed our thinking mind not our souls.

It comes back to the same old situation. Being in the moment, grounded and connected to yourself can only happen if you let go of the past and of the future and allow yourself to feel your true self in the moment.

For me this is quite scary, I find I am more in the moment when I am with clients than any other time in my life. Realising this makes me feel a lack of joy. I am trying to find out ways that I can make myself present more often I will share my findings as I go along for you all to consider.

 In the end it seems clearing your old emotions and stepping out of your future worries is extremely imported to find true total love and joy

 I hope this makes some sense to you

 Best regards 

 Wayne
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